Wednesday, April 13, 2016

Day In The Life: Spring 2016

The day I selected to document is Tuesday, April 12, 2016

Andi & I are both 35 years old 
Tory is 4 years, 7 months
Aden is 2 years, 5 months 

6:00am: I hear footsteps coming down the hallway, then see a little blond head pop up over the end of the bed. It's Aden, and he says good morning as he climbs into bed with Andi and I. As we lay there and wake-up slowly together, Aden serenades us with toddler renditions of Itsy Bitsy Spider and ABC's in his cute little voice.

The sirens sound outside and Andi and I wonder what's going on. Six o'clock in the morning is an odd time of the day for a tornado drill, we say to one another. The thought of a national emergency crosses our minds and Andi turns on the morning news for info. A quick check of Twitter tells me it's National Severe Weather Week so I think that might be it, but then I see a post on Facebook announcing a false alarm set off by Hennepin County. Ah, well, now we know.

6:15am: Tory wakes up and crawls into bed with Andi, Aden and I. She happily gives everyone a morning hug, and tells us she woke up earlier when Aden was calling for her from his bedroom. "I closed my eyes for a little longer once the shouting stopped," she says. 

Andi gets out of bed to shower and the kids watch Mickey Mouse Clubhouse in our bedroom while I lay beside them and check Instagram on my iPhone. I remember I want to document a Day In The Life today, so I hop out of bed and retrieve my big camera from the desk in the kitchen.

6:30am: Aden notices Andi is getting ready for work and starts to cry. "Daddy! Where my socks? Where my shoes?" he demands in a panic, thinking he'll get dressed and leave for work with Andi. Since moving to our condo earlier this month, we've had the chance to see Andi more often throughout the day which is fantastic and one of the major reasons we decided to move closer to his office. Andi leaves later in the mornings now and last week, he even came home for lunch a few times. It's confusing for Aden, however, because it's more parent separation than he was used to. Before, Andi left before the kids woke in the morning and typically wasn't home until bedtime. More time with Andi is a good thing -- a great thing, actually -- it'll just take some time for Aden to adjust to our new normal.


The crying escalates into a full-on meltdown when Andi walks to the kitchen to grab breakfast to-go. He kisses both kids good-bye, puts on his shoes and walks out the back door.


Aden is now crying so hard he's nearly hyperventilating. I wait a few minutes to see if he'll calm down on his own while I pull out the makings for breakfast, but he continues to scream. I carry him downstairs to his bedroom and sit on the floor with him in my arms until his panicked cries turn to sniffles. It's the only thing that seems to help snap him out of these tantrums lately. Secretly, I also hope it puts enough distance between the crying and the neighbors living above us.


7:00am: Aden finally calms down so I carry him back upstairs for breakfast. I find Tory in the kitchen filling up her water bottle from the refrigerator spigot and see she's set out plates, silverware and napkins for breakfast. Goodness, I love her so much. I give Tory a great big squeeze and thank her for being such a sweet girl. Age Four is seriously the best! (For the record, Age Two is definitely not.)



One of my favorite features in our new place -- a filtered water spigot inside the refrigerator! Anyone who knows me, knows I drink a lot of water throughout the day and this is so nice and convenient. 


7:30am: I take orders for breakfast. Aden is half-crying / half-whining while he sits on the counter next to me. "No! Don't like that! I want chicken," he demands. I am making his beloved chicken sausage, but apparently not moving fast enough.


During the cooking scramble, I burn the frozen waffles in the toaster. I guess I didn't realize the slider was pushed all the way up to level nine. Into the trash they go and I start again. Meanwhile, I heat up the overnight oats I made earlier in the week for me to eat -- rolled oats, chia seeds, cinnamon, peanut butter and fruit -- ready to eat in 60 seconds.



8:00am: I turn Doc McStuffins on the T.V. and buckle Aden into his booster seat hoping he'll actually eat this meal. Getting him to sit at the table has been a challenge since moving him out of a high chair. Aden was also sick over the weekend and hasn't had much of an appetite, so I hope he eats something this morning.



I text back and forth with Allison, our past nanny-turned-friend, about the overnight oats recipe I'm eating. We both take part in the same fitness group and it's nice having someone else in my life who's as interested in discussing oatmeal as I am. Ha!


 
8:15am: I chug my coffee and get crackin' on the rest of my morning chores. I clean up the breakfast mess, unload the dishwasher and re-load it with dirty breakfast dishes, feed the dog and let her outdoors to go to the bathroom, make everyone's beds and get Aden and I dressed for the day.




The condo building next door is currently being constructed, so this is the view outside our patio door.



Tory emerges from her downstairs bedroom wearing her favorite self-assembled outfit -- a white floral dress, blue floral leggings of a different pattern and striped pink socks. If this outfit is clean, she chooses to wear it -- no question. Today, Tory adds a jean jacket on top of her short-sleeve dress, and I tell her it's going to be a chilly day so she may want to wear something warmer. "I'll be fine, Mom," she reassures me.


Meanwhile, I hear Aden phoning Andi from the hallway. "Hello, Daddy? Helloooo!" I look over and see he's talking into a door stopper. Ha! I text the picture to Andi hoping he won't feel so bad about leaving a crying Aden this morning.




8:30am: I head to the bathroom to do my hair and make-up, and marvel over the pretty surroundings. We've lived in this condo for a week and a half now, and I still feel like a guest in a fancy hotel. I love it! Tory and Aden are in the bathroom with me, and I listen to Tory hugging Aden saying, "I love you, Buddy Baby, I love you, I love you."




8:45am: I throw a load of laundry into the washer located in the hallway closet (another feature I love about our new place - having laundry so close in the main living space) and pull together the things we need for ECFE preschool today -- the kids' school buckets, Tory's favorite Lambie stuffed animal, Aden's favorite blue blanket, water bottles and snacks for everyone, and my purse. The kids are laying on the coffee table in the living room watching television. Then, Tory takes my picture while I get Aden's shoes on. I catch sight of a big fork-lift passing by the kitchen window and say to the kids, "You don't see that everyday." "Actually, ya do," Tory responds. 




8:50am: Tory, Aden and I head out the door for school. I still forget we're living in a shared space until I open the door to the lobby area. I corral the kids into the attached garage and buckle them into their car seats. We're on our way a few minutes later, sit at the world's longest stoplight down the road, then make the 20 minute drive to preschool. Aden's fussing from the backseat at the mention of school (more separation anxiety), so I quietly whisper to Tory not to talk about school anymore until we get there.



9:15am: We arrive at school a few minutes early, so I unbuckle the kids from the seats and let them crawl around in the car while I record a few Day In The Life notes on my phone. Shortly after, we head into the school building. Aden seems happy to be here now, and I hope he doesn't cry when I leave him in the "Sibling Care" daycare room. No dice -- he throws a huge fit when I leave him, but I check back in a few minutes and watch him contently playing with playdoh at a table with a few other students and a teacher.


9:30am: Tory and I walk down the hallway to her classroom and she's excited to see her school friends. I tell a few of the mothers and Tory's teacher, Ms. Janna, I'm making an "Old House, New House" book for Tory and that's why I brought my big camera to class today. It is true, but it's also a good cover for taking Day In The Life photos!


9:45am: During craft time, Tory makes a bird feeder using a paper towel roll, string, Crisco shortening and bird seed with some assistance from her teacher. Then, we move on to playing "grocery store" at the Imaginative Play station. I'm a little sad to see this school year come to an end because Tory's really grown fond of Ms. Janna in the past two years. Definitely not looking forward to starting a new school year with new teachers in a new school district next fall.





10:00am: Now it's Circle Time, so all the kids and parents sit together on the carpet and sing the Welcome Song. This is such a special time with Tory every Tuesday, and I'm thankful for the opportunity to share the preschool experience with her. A few minutes later, the parents leave the room and head to another classroom for the parent education portion of the morning. The parents spend most of our class time listening and giving advice to one of the mom's struggling with a family issue.


11:20am: I pick up Aden from the Sibling Care room and he's happy to see me. "I play trucks!" he tells me, excitedly. "I play playdoh! I eat snack! Let's go get Tory!" I know he enjoys himself at school, so I wish he wouldn't cry every Tuesday when I drop him off there. It's hard on my mommy heart!

Aden and I walk down the hallway together to pick up Tory from her classroom. Ms. Janna greets the parents in the hallway and gives us a quick recap of the kids' morning. As the three of us walk out of the school building to our car, Tory tells me "So, Sam was the leader.... we had Cheerio's for a snack ... I worked on my letters with Ms. Janna." We pile into the car, buckle our seat belts and head home for lunch.


11:45am: I have the hardest time convincing Aden to get out of the car once we're parked in the condo garage. Every time I try to grab him, he moves to another hard-to-reach spot in the car just outside my reach. It's smelly in here, thanks to four full garbage cans (trash day is tomorrow), and I'm getting frustrated. Finally, I get him inside the lobby where he refuses to walk inside the back door of our condo. Come on, Aden! My arms are full and he's screaming, "No! Shoes on!" as I try to shuffle him inside and take off his coat.

 
Noon: Tory lets Chloe out of her kennel downstairs, and I take the dog outside to use the bathroom. She goes, so I reward her with a treat. Well, Aden technically gives Chloe the treat and it's enough distraction to stop his whining ... for now.


12:15pm: I pull out all the supplies for lunch and set them on the counter. "I'm so hungry!" Tory demands, and I reassure her I'm moving as quickly as I can. She'd like a black bean and cheese quesadilla, so I cook that on the stove-top while I make Aden chicken fries and green beans. They both get milk and watermelon.






12:15pm: Once the kids have their food, I make a chicken gyro salad for myself. I top romaine lettuce with sliced red bell peppers, feta, cucumber, add some rotisserie chicken that I made in the slow cooker on Sunday, and use homemade tzaziki sauce as dressing.  


12:30pm: There's a knock at the back door while we're eating lunch, and it's Eric the property handyman. He's come over to install the kitchen sink soap dispenser. We chat for a bit about the door locks (we need to have them replaced because Aden can easily open the doors to escape!) and Eric asks me if there's anything else I can think of that needs to be fixed in our place. I kind of like having my own personal handyman to tackle my honey-do list! I take a stealth iPhone photo while Eric's busy installing the soap dispenser under the sink. 


1:00pm: I clean up the lunch mess and load the dishwasher while Aden and Tory wrestle each other in the living room. Soon enough, I hear Tory yelling for me and find Aden standing on top of her. So it begins! The kids ask for a treat since they ate all of their food at lunch, so I give them each a piece of chocolate. I have one myself, too, because - duh.



I tell Aden to join me downstairs for books before nap time. Tory follows us downstairs to play Barbies while I put Aden to sleep. As much of a handful as Aden is these days, I am thankful he sleeps so well. He doesn't give me any trouble at nap time. We read three stories, I kiss his forehead and tell him good-night. He's asleep within minutes.


Whenever Aden sees an animal in a book he says, "Poop!" I have no idea where that came from, but I'm blaming Andi. Ha!


1:30pm: Tory and I head upstairs to spend some quality time together. She picks out a Frozen Look + Find book from the craft drawer and I mix myself a pre-workout drink to have while we play. I also take a minute to check into my fitness group on Facebook and post my daily meal plan. The encouragement and support this group has given me the last six months is incredible. I feel like a stronger, more confident person thanks to these ladies!



I posted about this on Instagram earlier this week, but it's worth mentioning again. This built-in desk area in the kitchen is one of my favorite places in our new condo. It's perfect for playing games or doing arts + crafts with Tory in the afternoons. I love that we can sit right next to each other at a flat working surface. Or if I ever have a minute to myself, I like to sit there with a cup of coffee and my computer. It's perfect!
 

2:00pm: After we finish the Look + Find book, I tell Tory I'm going to workout and ask her if she'd rather sit downstairs with me or watch a show in my bedroom. She wants to watch the movie Frozen with a snack, so I lift her up on the kitchen counter and let her pick something out. Tory wants hot chocolate and Lucky Charms for a snack, so I get those ready for her and set up the show in my bedroom.



2:15pm: I started a new workout program this week called Master's Hammer + Chisel and it's super challenging! I have to put my eyeballs back into my head a few times and rewind the workout to figure out exactly what I'm suppose to be doing. Today's workout is called Hammer Plyometics and later when I Google "what type of exercise is plyometics?" I find out it's "jump training" by exerting maximum force in short intervals of time. Yep, that about sums it up!



2:45pm: After I finish my workout, I head upstairs to take a shower. Tory asks if she can take a shower, too, but doesn't want to wash her hair. "Can I wear that thing on my head?" she asks, and digs out my shower cap from underneath the bathroom sink. She looks so stinkin' cute I have to snap her picture. We have a good laugh together.   


Tory wants to take a picture of me, so I let her. The camera body is heavy, and she's having a hard time holding it up to her face. Next lesson, how to hold down the button to focus.


3:30pm: I hear Aden waking up downstairs while I'm in the kitchen making a protein shake. I retrieve him from his bedroom and change his diaper. The boy is cranky! Tory and I try to distract him by making Cheerio bars in the kitchen together. Aden wants nothing of it, and cries for me to hold him the entire time. The mixture is 3 cups of Honey Nut Cheerios, 1/2 cup honey and 3/4 cup of peanut butter. Tory is having fun ... until she burns her hand pressing the gooey mixture down into the pan with a spatula. It's nothing serious, but now both kids are crying for me to hold them. Onto the next activity!



Always a mess when cooking with kids!


4:00pm: Tory gets out the Minnie Mouse matching game and we set it up on the kitchen desk. I get Aden some Dot Art markers and a workbook to play with beside us. It's fun while their attention spans hold. I've got tunes playing in the background (Country Coffeehouse on Spotify), and we've got nowhere to be but with each other. Life is good.



5:00pm: The kids are over QT with their mama, and ask for a cartoon in my bedroom. I turn on Mickey Mouse Clubhouse for them and steal a few minutes for myself at the kitchen desk with my computer. Andi started ordering fresh-prepared Paleo meals from a local company called Origin a few months ago, and it's such a lifesaver during this typical witching hour of the day. Instead of prepping dinner for tonight, I'm able to spend the late afternoon hours with my kids. Such an awesome luxury!

5:30pm: Andi arrives home from work, and the kids swarm to him like bees on honey. He suggests we walk to the shops across the street for some, um, liquor replenishment so everyone puts on their shoes and coats. Aden manages to pull on his own shoes and we all clap for his accomplishment.



6:00pm: Andi and I haul out the trash cans on our way out the door while the kids are running around us like crazy maniacs. A wine bottle falls out of the overflowing recycling bin and breaks into a million pieces on the garage floor. "Everyone onto the drive-way!" Andi shouts to the kids while he and I work to sweep up the mess.

To the shops we go on this very chilly spring afternoon. Andi and the kids race down the strip mall sidewalk to the liquor store. When we arrive, there's a sign on the door that says the store is closed until Friday for remodeling. Darn! Instead, we wander inside the nearby furniture and sports stores but don't buy anything.




6:30pm: Our little crew walks back home together. I start to make dinner for the kids while Andi pours us each something to drink. Cheers to making it through another day! He warms up our Origin Meals on the stove-top, and we all sit down for dinner at the table. This is exactly why we made the move closer to Andi's office -- it's so awesome having dinner together as a family!





6:45pm: Andi and I are having a conversation over dinner when all of a sudden Aden begins to projectile vomit all over himself, his plate and the dining room table. Oh, geez! It's like something out of a movie; it just keeps coming. "What can I do?" Andi asks, and I direct him to grab some paper towels. I take Aden and clean him up while Andi tackles the vomit mess. Oddly, Aden doesn't seem phased and asks for more food once he's all cleaned up. I'm not sure if it's lingering sickness from the weekend, or if he ate too quickly? Whatever it is, I pour out the remainder of my glass of wine because I'm sure I have a long night ahead.

My cell phone is sitting on the kitchen counter, and Andi notices my sister is calling me. I answer it, and she frantically asks me why I haven't been answering my phone for the last two hours. We were having dinner I tell her, and also because I had my hands full with Aden. Ashley tells me my dad is in the hospital. He fell down some stairs earlier in the evening and broke his collarbone. Luckily, he's okay and is at home resting now. As is always the case in these situations, I feel terrible I'm not there with my family. Ashley tells me she'll call later with more info. 

7:00pm: I throw together another batch of overnight oats for Andi since he liked them so much at breakfast. So simple! To make, layer from bottom to top: 1/3 cup rolled oats, dash of cinnamon, pinch of chia seeds, 1 tsp. peanut butter, 1/3 cup almond milk, then top with 1 cup raspberries and diced apples (or any fruit of your choice). Keep in a tightly-sealed container in the refrigerator for up to a week. 


7:30pm: Andi asks me which kid I'd like to put to sleep, and I choose Tory. We read three books in her bed, then I kiss her good-night and turn on her lullaby music. Meanwhile, Andi does the same routine with Aden in his bedroom.



8:00pm: Kids are in bed and Andi and I settle onto the living room sofa to watch a few minutes of television. He turns on The Mindy Project and we half-watch it / half-talk about our days.
 

9:00pm: We turn in for the night and Andi's asleep a few minutes later. I lay in bed and read a book for a while on my iPhone Kindle app before falling asleep myself. The End.

Monday, April 11, 2016

Our New Home

Phew, what a whirlwind few days!

A week ago Friday, our family moved into our new home -- a three-bedroom condo in an urban Twin Cities suburb -- and life is finally beginning to feel normal again. No one said moving was easy! My sister-in-law hit the nail on the head when she said it wasn't just the few days surrounding the move that were busy for us; there were months of preparation beforehand in readying our old house for sale, purging, packing, moving and finally settling into our new place. Every spare moment has been devoted to this move and now that it's finally over, I can breathe. We're here! We're living in our new home and couldn't be happier.    

So far, Andi and I have been very pleased with our decision to downsize from a 3,000 sq. ft. single-family home into a 2,000 sq. ft. condo unit. It's different from our life before in so many ways -- mostly for good reasons and some unique (with the potential of being annoying? more on that later...). It's something special to live in a brand new place -- everything is so clean and bright. The condo's modern style agrees with Andi and I's design preferences, so our belongings fit in perfectly here. And because we donated / sold so many things before we moved, nothing feels cluttered.

Tory is adjusting fantastically to our new home. Our efforts in preparing her ahead of time with pictures, a countdown calendar and a sequence chart the days leading up to the move proved successful. She's also old enough (age 4 1/2) to understand the moving process. We did our best to answer her questions along the way, and it seemed to satisfy any anxieties she felt. Aden (age 2 1/2) and Chloe (our 11-year-old dog), on the other hand, have had a hard time. Neither of them really understood what was happening, so it's like a rug was suddenly pulled from underneath them. One of the hardest moments last week was when I overheard Aden say "I want to go home" to Tory while they were playing in the living room together. It's like she was the only one he felt he could trust. I know his confusion is completely normal and that it'll get better with time, but it still breaks my heart. I have less sympathy for the dog who's taken to wetting all over the basement carpet. I let her outside constantly, reward her with treats when she does her business outdoors and scold her when she messes. I ... don't know what else to do for her, and am all ears for suggestions.

The move to our new condo went fairly smoothly, all things considered. Andi's mom graciously offered to babysit Tory and Aden for the 36 hours surrounding our actual moving day (which somehow morphed into 48 hours of babysitting), so the kids and Chloe left our old house on Thursday, March 31 and returned to our new condo on Saturday, April 2. Andi and I hired a mover to physically pack and haul our items to the new place, so in that 1 1/2 days without the kids we packed our entire house and set it up in a new place. It was important to me to have everything done by the time the kids returned. I knew there would be an adjustment period for everyone, and I thought it'd be easier to manage if we weren't stepping over boxes to live.

Aden's last "sleep" in a baby crib at the old house. Next stop -- big boy bed!


I had the kids each say good-bye to their old bedrooms. Aden could've cared less, of course. He was more interested in Grandma whom he hadn't seen for two weeks.


I wasn't sad about leaving many things in the old house, but I was emotional about the kids leaving their bedrooms. These were the rooms where Andi and I brought our babies home from the hospital. It was sad to see the pictures come down off the walls and to know that someday soon their color would likely be painted over. Good-bye, room!


Tory's paper chain countdown and a picture sequence chart we made together to describe what would take place each day were really successful in helping Tory understand the process of moving. It also gave her something to look forward to everyday.


Our hired mover arrived shortly after the kids left with Janie on Thursday, and packed our entire house in the span of a few hours. Meanwhile, I met Andi at our new condo to do a walk-thru. It looked great considering it was still under construction the day prior. I'd planned to clean while I was there, but a professional cleaner hired by the building was already there - what a nice surprise!

I had our mover text me when the kitchen was packed so as soon as I received his message, Andi and I drove back to the old house to load the boxes into his work van. I spent the rest of Thursday evening organizing the kitchen at the new condo while Andi worked to set up the televisions and electronics. Really, you've got everything you need if you've got access to food, T.V. and Internet! It was a long night and by the end of it, I was overwhelmed by the amount of "stuff" we'd have to fit into this new place. 


Around 10pm, Andi and I headed back to the old house for one last night. Everything was completely packed and shrink-wrapped except for our bed.

The next day - Friday, April 1 - was moving day! Andi had a work meeting at 6:30am, so he left early morning. I squeezed in a quick workout in the dining room amongst all the boxes, then showered and got dressed for the day. I'd packed a suitcase with clothes and toiletries to get us through the transition.

Our hired mover arrived around 8:30am with two extra guys and the moving truck we'd rented. I filled my SUV with as many items as I could and headed over to the new place to get started. Meanwhile, the three guys filled the moving truck with our remaining household items.


Priorities...




Around 12:30pm, the truck arrived at the condo and the four of us (the three movers + me) worked to unload the truck. Unfortunately, Andi had an important meeting at work that day so he had to be at the office. At the same time, there were also three people from an audio/visual company Andi hired at the condo installing all of our televisions and speaker systems.


I wish I would've taken more pictures, but it was truly chaos directing movers in the right direction while unpacking boxes myself. We had one day without Tory and Aden there and I was determined to complete as much unpacking as possible. 

Our condo building is newly constructed and the one next to it is still being built. Therefore, the front of the building was solid mud (no grass yet) thanks to the rain we'd had earlier in the week. Andi laid down wooden planks for the movers to walk on, and we all worked as quickly as possible to unload the truck before being ticketed for illegal parking. Do first, ask for permission later! Luckily, we didn't get into any trouble parking in front of the building. 

I worked tirelessly until 12:30am Saturday morning unpacking boxes and putting away our things. I typically walk about 10,000 steps on an average day and on Moving Day, I walked over 23,000 steps. I was EXHAUSTED by the end of Friday, but everything was done by the end.   

Upstairs living room / kitchen:

  
On Saturday, April 2, Andi and I woke up in our new condo for the first time. I'd like to say we slept like rocks, but there were some construction materials blowing around outside our bedroom window that made it too noisy to sleep well. That, and I think I was too keyed-up to relax properly. That morning, Andi and I worked together to hang up some artwork and photographs on the walls. We both felt like it was a do-this-now thing, or those frames would sit propped against the wall for months. Later, Janie brought Tory and Aden "home" for the first time. 

Tory and Aden were so excited to see us after having spent the last two days at Grandma and Grandpa's house. Tory shrieked with glee the minute she saw her bedroom. There's space in her walk-in closet to hang her play dress-up clothes which she loved, and she was excited about the full-length mirror we hung on her wall. Aden liked his room, too, and kept repeating "Big bed! Mickey sheets!"

Tory's bedroom is painted in Benjamin Moore Iced Lavender -- the same color as her bedroom in the old house. We gave her the queen-size bed we'd had in the spare bedroom and Aden's nursery dresser. Her room is big, but filled up quickly with large furniture.  


Aden now has Tory's twin-size white bedroom set. My baby is now in a big boy bed and he loves it! I'd still like to do a little more decorating in the kids' bedrooms, but for the most part they're put together and functional.


That night was the first time Tory and Aden slept in their new bedrooms. Andi and I braced for multiple wake-ups, but surprisingly both kids slept great. I was nervous the kids would wake up and not know how to find us, so I gave them flashlights to sleep with in their rooms. They both thought that was pretty fun and fortunately, everything went well! 



The first few days in our new home felt like a vacation in a luxury condo, but slowly it's starting to feel like ours. Simple things like getting out the door on time or making dinner take extra time because everything's in a different place than before. We'll get there! There are so many new and different things about this place which I want to write more about -- our building neighbors, the construction site outside our windows, new parks, shops, restaurants in our neighborhood, etc. -- stay tuned!